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i_am_a_mama
02 October 2009 @ 04:19 pm
I've been giving this blog a lot of thought lately - wondering just how I can make it work into my new motivation for self-education. I've always done a fair bit of it, but with college being a wayside thought now, I'm wanting to delve in deeper and more focused than I'd be able to in that situation anyhow.

Now I've picked up a few interesting books; one being "a History of God" by Karen Armstrong, which I *know* I will have a lot to say about - and another called "Toys, Play and Child Development" edited by Jeffrey H. Goldstein.

Today's entry comes from the latter, though I may only do this one essay before slipping into the history of God book.

At any rate, with no further ado:
Key phrases and thoughts from Jerome L. Singer"s EssayCollapse )

So what does this mean for me as the parent of a child?Collapse )
 
 
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i_am_a_mama
02 June 2009 @ 01:05 pm
It's indifference.

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i_am_a_mama
22 April 2009 @ 02:27 pm
Article Here

"It isn’t that diversity is a problem, but there’s something unsettling about our capital city becoming the staging ground for a protest of a war we’re not involved in, from a people and a religion not indigenous to this nation, being held by a group of people who support an organization recognized as a terrorist fighting force."


Now, the article goes on to describe why the author is against such things: and he makes a couple good points, such as the generation of litter and clogging of public transit, but I think that there is a more fundamental issue at stake.

Deep thoughts with NicoleCollapse )
 
 
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i_am_a_mama
24 March 2009 @ 11:52 pm
I realized the other day that I only have a few months left in which to enjoy my son being 2. He has changed immensely since his second birthday.

He was terribly sick a couple weeks ago. Not as bad as some kids get it, but he literally laid around with a fever for three days. It was as if his entire personality had been sapped out of him.

When he recovered, however, we were back with full force. Ever since then, he has been funny, energetic, and he seemingly came back from his lethargy with a newfound knowledge.

He's been speaking in almost full sentences since. In fact, I was asked the other day if he was in school yet. When I responded that he was two and a half, the woman blinked at me in surprise and laughed.

"I could have sworn he was at least four!"

I often get compliments on how polite he is, how tall, how smart. I just think he's an incredibly funny boy; who loves a lot.

ETA:

Lately, E has been coming to me and saying "Mama, I hab a sah-prize fow you."

When I ask what it is, he puts his hand to his cheek and whispers "it'sa sah-prize" and then kisses me on the cheek.

It's pretty much the cutest thing ever.


All in all, this post is just for me to reflect on being my boy's mum. And I love it.
 
 
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i_am_a_mama
04 March 2009 @ 01:12 am
This article makes me weep.

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My only response can be (and has been) the following:


 
 
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i_am_a_mama
21 February 2009 @ 09:15 am
Mother's International Lactation Campaign, or M.I.L.C. is hosting an online/virtual nurse-in on Facebook today. On their facebook/event page, they make the following points in response to Facebook deleting nursing photos.
M.I.L.C."s points.Collapse )
I have been fully supportive of this campaign; my own facebook status heralds the suggested "Hey Facebook, Nursing is not obscene", paired with a photo of myself nursing my toddler.

In a world where women's bodies are used constantly in a sexual sense to sell products, it becomes an issue of obscenity when women are nursing their children in public. The problem is that women who nurse their children do not do it out of some sexualized notion... they do it because they want their child to have the nutrients that breastfeeding provides. Nursing also provides a very emotional bond.

For me personally, my son is always exceptionally pleased when he gets to have his bitty. When he hurts himself, I am able to comfort him easily by nursing. When it is time for bed, I can slow down for a while and just spend time snuggling with him.

I am not ashamed to still be nursing my toddler. For us, this is still one of the best parts of our day.

As long as Facebook is still posting or allowing the posting of photos of scantily clad women at the same time as removing photos of nursing mothers, I will stand alongside the other mothers in M.I.L.C.
 
 
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i_am_a_mama
05 November 2008 @ 04:14 pm
So,  it looks as though this has passed.

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i_am_a_mama
04 November 2008 @ 09:03 pm
So, Obama is apparently the next President of the United States. 

I have friends on both sides of the political spectrum, and so I've been trying to keep my mouth shut on the personal side of it.

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The chips have fallen where they will, and all that is left is to see how it will all play out.

Congrats to the new President of the United States.  Remember to listen to your people, both those who supported you and those who did not.



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i_am_a_mama
14 October 2008 @ 07:25 pm
Well, today was election day in Canada.

I have to admit, I debated whether to vote or not.  I ended up going, but voted for a party that I don't really trust to do much by way of good.

I would feel that way no matter who I voted for, however.  You see, I don't believe that we live in a real democracy.  Sure, it's close; we have a ton of good things going on here in Canada, and I am so grateful that I live here.  I mean, in lots of countries I couldn't say what I think about the government, and so I wanted to make it clear that I get that.

The Conservatives haven't screwed up or anything that particularly makes me not want them to take office, but there are simple things that I would prefer to see.  I don't know if I particularly have faith that any of the political parties would concern themselves with such things.

So here's my wishlist:

1. Intractable Poverty - let's address it.  What causes it?  How can we help out those who need that assistance?

2. Childcare - this should not just be daycare spaces... there are moms who would love nothing more than to be able to stay home with their kids.  How can we make it so that these people (yes, like me) can do so without having to choose whether to live below the poverty line or not?

3. Military - can we *please* not send my friend back overseas to 'fight' and 'patrol' an area that the United States wanted to cover?  Why are we there at all?  Can we get back to what we Canadians were known for.. y'know, PEACEKEEPING?

4. Oil - Canada could lead the way in alternative energy.  Let's do it.  I don't care what the oil companies think.  There has to be a way to retain jobs but explore these other avenues.  We're smart, let' figure it out.

5. Affordable Housing.

6. Healthcare - Let's work on getting more doctors.  How?  Well, we could offer the incentive of 'once you finish med school, and are practicing in Canada, we'll pay off your student loans.'  I know that would have helped my brother, the doctor.  It would probably be less daunting for people to attempt to get their degrees, as well.  A similar philosophy could be used for nurses.


That's all I can think of for now.  Sorry if this seems disjointed and doesn't make much sense...

 
 
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i_am_a_mama
02 October 2008 @ 09:20 am
http://www.timesoftheinternet.com/6180.html
METAIRE, La., Sept. 24 (UPI) --

A Louisiana state legislator, worried that women on welfare are having more children, is considering offering them cash payments for sterilization.

State Rep. John LaBruzzo told the New Orleans Times-Picayune that he is not ready to sponsor legislation yet. But he said that voluntary sterilization might be combined with tax incentives to encourage those with more money and education to have bigger families.

"What I'm really studying is any and all possibilities that we can reduce the number of people that are going from generational welfare to generational welfare," he said.

LaBruzzo said that his proposal has already led to charges that he is racist and sexist.

"It's easy to say, 'Oh, he's a racist,' " LaBruzzo said. "The hard part is to sit down and think of some solutions."

His plan would include incentives for women to undergo tubal ligation or to use some other form of birth control and for men to have vasectomies. He said he opposes abortion and would not encourage it.


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This article really made me think.  Where I originally read it was on a board where I was shocked to see people say that some people should be sterilized, that some people just shouldn't have children.  While that may be the case, their kids are around, and the poverty of parents is not the children's fault... Not when it's on the level being referred to here.

There are many causes of intractable poverty, and it has more to do with systems than with individuals.  So, maybe instead of sterilizing women who happen to be in poverty, we should have people who will look at root causes of intractable poverty and find ways to stop *that*.  The problem that he's trying to address goes deeper, and is far more complicated than his suggested solution.

I haven't ever been on welfare, and I *have* seen lots of kids whose home life is crap, but at the same time, to suggest sterilization as such a nonchalant thing seems to do the situation terrible disservice.  Like abortion and childbirth in general, there is a deeper struggle in the woman's psyche; one a man will never comprehend. Thus, the thought of a man mandating whether or not I get to have children; because my husband and I fall on hard times, well it's terrifying to me, especially as I have had nightmares of having been sterilized after E's birth.  Let me tell you, it is *not* a pleasant thing to wake up the next morning convinced of.

On a different tangent, my husband and I have considered leaving our 'riches' (because face it, compared to most of the world we are insanely rich) and go live in the slums, to draw alongside those whose lives are a spiral through intractable poverty. By that very choice to go live in community, then, to become neighbours in a full sense and thusly make those concerns our own, I should be sterilized, according to this.  I don't know that it would go that far, but the possibility is there.

For me, as a taxpayer, as a young mother whose husband works hard to keep us clothed, housed and fed, I would still rather see some people take advantage of the system/live off the system than end up on the streets. Yes, those children were born into poverty, and yes it's intractable and it can be incredibly hard for them to get out of it, and it's often the case that they don't... but sterilization will do nothing to change that. It'll just keep the rich, rich, and the poor not only poor, but also hopeless, and more driven to drinking or drugs.  There is a hopelessness that comes with intractable poverty, and beyond that, some people like to play off their circumstances and use them for excuses, a terrible cycle of victimization that spirals on and on.

In a society where it is still suggested that our worth is our children (I've had it said almost word for word to my face), sterilization is just another sick way to keep people trapped in both a sphere of victimization and disenfranchisement. I just simply can't believe that it would in any way benefit society. I think that it would only keep people *more* trapped by their poverty and destitution.

That said, I don't know what the solutions are to intractable poverty.  Even if I did... I think that'd be a topic for another day.

 
 
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